As much as I am offended by the abuse, I do not think we gain anything by becoming a thin skinned society, always the victim, always filled with (self) righteous indignation, and always politically correct. We have moved to an extreme in the opposite direction of our more overtly racist, bigoted, and divisive past. In the process we are not less divided but more divided. We are constantly outraged by things we ought to be able to shrug off and, in the process, we have no indignation left for that which rightfully deserves our outage. I fear for the children we raise with such constraints upon our speech and with such a penchant for being the victim.
This is not merely a debate going on outside the Church; it has entered the conversation of Christians as well. I have personally been accused of being a misogynist for refusing the ordination of women. I have had people tear up and claim offense because I do not approve of same sex marriage. I have had people stomp out of my office because I mentioned that their cohabitation was not the same as marriage. All of this happened not in the arena of culture and society but within the Church.
It seems we have forgotten everything Jesus said about turning the other cheek or how Luther explained the eighth commandment (put the best construction on everything). Instead we divert the focus away from the real wrongs and place it instead upon imaginary wrongs -- someone has the nerve to disagree with me. As I have posted before, we are called to speak the truth in love. That still means to speak the truth. I am not advocating here for personal opinion as truth but for THE truth -- the doctrine and formulations of the Church from Scripture, through tradition, down to the present moment.
In the end we have adopted a new form of Pharisaism in which moral outrage and indignation are the cover for the log in our eyes while we pick at the speck in the eyes of others. We have learned the audacity of shifting the uncomfortable spotlight of God's Law away from us by searching for the cracks in others, especially those who speak God's Word to us. In the end, however, being thin skinned and carrying our outrage as very public baggage, we will still be held accountable but the only One whose judgment counts.
We serve a faux Gospel that does not really offer forgiveness because we will admit none of our sins. We have a faux church because we have no creed for belonging and no requirements of membership. We speak only in the language of affirmation -- even though what we affirm is a temporary truth sure to change as the years come and go and sure to need adjustment as we discover more of what we like about ourselves and dislike about others.
What have we gained by
- schools in which everyone passes and no distinction is made about grades,
- sports in which everyone gets to play and no score is kept except fouls,
- language in which disagreement is itself the worst offense, and
- morality in which each person gets to set their own compass -- so long as it does not in any way judge, affect, or offend others?